"It is important that people know what you stand for.
It's equally important that they know what you won't stand for."
Its times like these I wonder,, why don't I have a boyfriend? Then I remember I wont settle for anything less then I deserve. I am capable of having one, like any girl, its really not that hard,, men are easy. But its finding one worth keeping. I haven't been in too many honest boyfriend-girlfriend, "facebook official" relationships. Lets see,, and yes they will stay nameless...
The boyfriend from sophomore year... I had till recently thought he was my first love, he was and still is the only boy to break up with me. I was devastated and heartbroken like any 16 year old is.
The boyfriend a month after the boyfriend from sophomore year... definitely a rebound.
The boyfriend from junior year... He admitted to me before he left on his mission he was still in love with me and still hasn't forgotten about me, K dude that was two years ago. We dated for a month.
The boyfriend from,, well the most recent one... Thought he was a hot bad ass,, turned out to be a big baby who is clingier then shit.
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Two of my really good friends are dating guys they should definitely not be seeing, because they treat them like absolute crap. And although I am a good friend and tell them they deserve wayyyy better. They never listen. The difference between me and most girls is that whole awkward really crappy break up conversation, well im good at it, wanna know why? Because obviously I'm not happy enough with this person to want to see them anymore. So really its easy for me. Common sense really, you don't like them, their treating you like complete dirt, they annoy you just when they touch you... what ever it is,, its not happy.
Every girl wants to find that boy that gives them the butterflies when they see him, and goes to bed hoping he will text her in the morning, that boy that will do anything for her. But none of that means anything if you won't do the same for him. Think about it... every girl can have that boy.. but eventually those butterflies go away, those text in the mornings still are there, but you start to reply later and later in the day because you can go hours without texting them and,, hey look your still alive. And you slowly start to realize you wouldn't do anything for him anymore. Its called desperate, and I'm sure most girls figured it out along the way, and some girls are so worried about oh no I'm single, that they settle for "he's there, he's convenient, things will change if I break up with him and I hate change, he won't let me break up with him" whatever it is. It's not me.
I use to wonder why I go so long without having a boyfriend, until I got one.. then my question was answered. I have standards. And people change in relationships. The boy you once might of liked, turned out to be someone completely different and people don't realize that,, you may have been in love with them at some point, but can you look at that person and still love who they have become?? A lot of the times the answer is yes, but if the answer is no, sometimes thats okay. Its okay to fall out of love, its okay to realize people change, and sometimes not for the best. Just look at the upside.. the next relationship will be even better, because you know exactly what you want.
I'm not picky, I sometimes wonder if my standards are too high. But thats not possible, I wouldn't be as happy knowing I settled. And sometimes you have to compromise with yourself and always look at the good in someone. But if I am not happy, hell no am I still going to date you. If I wasn't happy, I would never love them. And thats the point in relationships, is to fall in love.