As time goes on you'll understand--
What lasts, lasts;
What doesn't, doesn't;
Time solves most things.
& what time can't solve,
you have to solve for yourself.
What lasts, lasts;
What doesn't, doesn't;
Time solves most things.
& what time can't solve,
you have to solve for yourself.
I'm realizing the older I get, the harder relationships are to maintain. It doesn't matter how good of a person or friend you are, people have the choice to walk out of your life and its your job to let them. I could lie to you and tell you to fight for whats yours but the fact of the matter is: if they were someone worth keeping, you wouldn't have to fight. They will have made the choice to stay through the good times and the bad, because the relationship was one worth staying for.
I've also decided friendships become about quality not quantity. You eventually have to decide for yourself what relationships are worth keeping because lets face it: in the adult world it stops being about hanging out all day, everyday. It turns into work, school, and making up for lost time with the fam. So, among all of this madness that is your life you start deciding who is important enough to keep around, and who isn't. During this process you will realize what relationships are reciprocating that same effort and those are the ties you choose to maintain, or cut loose. And I think maybe that also comes with time. Like the longer you've been friends with someone the less effort you have to put fourth because you both just know: life gets in the way. It doesn't mean your love for each other has changed any; it just means you are mature enough to accept that as you get older, priorities change.
I've accepted this transition in my life. I've come to terms with the fact that in 20 years, not everyone in my life is going to be there anymore. I think its helped me be a better person, and a better friend. I've stopped dwelling on the people who don't deserve my time and focused on the ones that have proved day in, and day out they aren't going anywhere. Those are the people I'm counting on being there in 20 years; the ones who picked me up when I fell down. The ones who brought me Neapolitan ice cream and Oreo's when I had a bad weekend. The ones who stuck by my side through the mo-mo phase, the reckless phase, and every phase in between. The ones who built me up and reminded me of my infinite potential. The ones who held me when I cried. The ones who told me I was being a dumb ass when I strayed off the beaten path. The ones who chose to stay when I gave them every opportunity to leave. Those are the relationships I'll hold onto. Those are the people I'm holding a place for in my heart, forever.
I've accepted this transition in my life. I've come to terms with the fact that in 20 years, not everyone in my life is going to be there anymore. I think its helped me be a better person, and a better friend. I've stopped dwelling on the people who don't deserve my time and focused on the ones that have proved day in, and day out they aren't going anywhere. Those are the people I'm counting on being there in 20 years; the ones who picked me up when I fell down. The ones who brought me Neapolitan ice cream and Oreo's when I had a bad weekend. The ones who stuck by my side through the mo-mo phase, the reckless phase, and every phase in between. The ones who built me up and reminded me of my infinite potential. The ones who held me when I cried. The ones who told me I was being a dumb ass when I strayed off the beaten path. The ones who chose to stay when I gave them every opportunity to leave. Those are the relationships I'll hold onto. Those are the people I'm holding a place for in my heart, forever.