"Sometimes you outgrow people. Don't try and fight it, understand it, or repair it. Just let it be."
Everything that once was so important to us now just doesn't seem to matter as we grow up, get older. Popularity, money, what college we went to, who our best friends in high school were, its all past tense. Yeah they shape and form our future, who we become gets formed by who we've been, but the fact of the matter is: people change.
Its inevitable. I look back at my life and the list of people that I thought would always be there, aren't. I don't dwell on it, or even care for that matter, because its just life. Once high school is over shit gets real, the day you graduate you look around at all your classmates and your lucky to even have so much as one in your life five years from now. 3/4 of them will stay in state college, the others will have made that decision to leave. Then they go off and make new friends and sure when they come home 3 times a year and have lunch with all their old friends, and post "I miss you" on their walls on facebook, but it won't ever be the same as before. Its called growing up. At this time in our lives we are supposed to go to college, meet new people, make mistakes, and take risks. Its one of those cliche's that actually does happen.
I'm going on my second year out of high school, and its true what they say: high school is just a blur. Its that part of your life you look back at and smile, remember the good days, dream about what you wish you could of done differently but that's it. I have seen a handful of kids since graduation and everyone is doing their own thing, half of my class is already married and having kids of their own, others off at college, some even went off the deep end. Thats the cool thing about facebook I guess, you still see what everyone is up to, but you don't see them, probably don't talk to them either, they were just those kids you went to high school with. You find yourself creating new memories, and friendships. Once college is over, its the same thing. You start your career, and it happens all over again, you lose friends because they go off and get a job in New York or wherever their life seems to take them, and you email, text maybe but just like before: people change.
It's one of those things you have to accept, I mean we see it in the movies all the time, people growing up and growing apart, but you never really believe it; until it happens to you. We all have those people in our lives that we swear we are going to be friends with forever, you joke about being in the old folks home laughing and reminiscing about the good old days, and hopefully it is true, but not likely. Ask your parents, do it, go ask them who their best friend was in high school, and I'm sure they'll smile tell you about it, and by the end of the story they'll have mentioned what happened for that friendship to end.
Don't be too heartbroken over the truth, because even though we may lose and gain people in our lives, they help us shape and form our future, our fate. These people that come into our lives, its always for a reason. If I never chose to hang out with Cassie that night last August, and gone to that party, I wouldn't of met some of my closest friends today, you know? One decision really can change everything.
Even though things change, and things in 5 years aren't going to be at all what you expected them to be, don't dwell on what hasn't happened yet. Remember everything happens for a reason, the good and bad.